the name's ari. 21, nyc.
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Remember that intimate conversation you had with your son? The one where you said, “I love you and I need you to know that no matter how a woman dresses or acts, it is not an invitation to cat call, taunt, harass or assault her”?

Or when you told your son, “A woman’s virginity isn’t a prize and sleeping with a woman doesn’t earn you a point”?

How about the heart-to-heart where you lovingly conferred the legal knowledge that “a woman doesn’t have to be fighting you and you don’t have to be pinning her down for it to be RAPE. Intoxication means she can’t legally consent, NOT that she’s an easy score.”

Or maybe you recall sharing my personal favorite, “Your sexual experiences don’t dictate your worth just like a woman’s sexual experiences don’t dictate hers.”

Last but not least, do you remember calling your son out when you discovered he was using the word “slut” liberally? Or when you overheard him talking about some girl from school as if she were more of a conquest than a person?

I want you to consider these conversations and then ask yourself why you don’t remember them. The likely reason is because you didn’t have them. In fact, most parents haven’t had them.

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The Conversation You Must Have With Your Sons | Carina Kolodny  (via albinwonderland)

What’s scary is that you KNOW the majority of young men receive the OPPOSITE kinds of messages both from their parents and the culture around them. And then people are surprised or defensive when a so-called “good” guy takes advantage of a women. And excuses are made to make her at fault, rather than blaming the perpetrator and all those who taught him for his entire life that what he did wasn’t really wrong. Rape culture is a cycle, and education like that shown above is what can help break it down.

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(元記事: iamnotafeministtbh (fruityboy62から))

(元記事: this-bi-guy (hopunkから))

"   If you regret some of the decisions you made in the past,
don’t be so hard on yourself.
At that time, you did your best with the knowledge that you had.
At that time, you did your best with the experience that you had.
Some of your decisions might have been coping skills and a time when you didn’t know what you know today.
If you were to make those decisions with the wisdom you have now, you would choose differently.
So give yourself a break and forgive yourself.
Time and experience has a wonderful way
to make us realize that we prosper,
grow and learn to make better choices today,
for ourselves and those we care for.   "
Brigitte Nicole (via liquid-diamonds-flowing)

(black--lambから)

ashotofhelena:

Silk | Giselle Rosselli

I’ll make your heart spin sorrow into silk
I’ll stay awake when you can’t get to sleep
I promised myself, if I pushed you away
I’d turn your sorrow into silk
I’d turn your sorrow… 

(black--lambから)

pyrrhics:

a sea witch i think

(grotesqueryから)

匿名: What does "pendeja" means?

lasfloresdemayo:

loved one

greencarnations:

spacethefinalfuck:

mehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh:

Female BAMFs Throughout History

this is fab BUT WHERE ARE THEIR NAMES?

I’m always wanting to read more about these posts immediately and I have trouble finding the sources.

(asskakuから)